“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to
use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
– Oscar Wilde
Love and sympathy are the greatest forces envelops the hearts of the greatest minds during the ancient period that gives birth to advance civilized world today. Love are the intangible emotional pulse in co-motion with the thought process were it’s definition are broadly prescribe based on given circumstances.
In religions (Buddhism, Hinduism, Islam, Daoism, ect.) they have their unique style of rendering the love towards which objects or doctrine they believe it is true. For instance like Christianity they affirm that God exist through the beliefs of His son (Jesus) unconditional love shown on His crucifixion at Mt. Calvary encrypted on the biblical periodicals.
Above elevations provides similar insights of my society engagement we would discussed on this blog. However, the particular would be centered on my culture (Huli Perspective), in Huli culture then, men has a strict interaction with women for upholding their righteousness undefiled.
Their believes is that women are the strange objects that would be the obstacles to attain prestige within the community with the distinction of having Hausman and Hausmeri. The same mentality and characteristic of devaluating the importance of women’s has been passed down the ages were mixed culture are being practiced and has become norm in my region today.
Practicing of polygyny are very common in the society were Man are so dominant and violations to teenagers(girls) lofty careers by marrying them to be their 3rd, 4rd, and 5th wife. Sometimes, girls does not have will to reject the consequence because their life decisions are laid upon her immediate family members and they don’t care about the long-terms of her livelihood.
There’s also a common ideology that women sometimes chasing lust or materialistic necessity in pursuant to their living. But those were only the hypothesis integrated into the societal influences that we’ve grown up with it and have systemize into our cognitive for practicality or stands as a slogans as “women’s used to chase after the lusts”
However, my heart torn into pieces when I understand the values of the women and their qualities for compliment the significant visions of particular minds in comparison on the context of my culture with the civilized views. Shattered it feels to understand the tormented emotions disguise in laughter and cherishing the kids to won the hearts of their spouses to love them infinity.
Some women have the utmost ability to pursue through their lofty careers but man are the barriers to them and eventually their desire extinct and they become so submissive all throughout their marriage career.
I may express my culture on my personal objectives but in wherever you are, this message is for you if you’re a women (girls), we all belong to a society were cultural behaviors is mostly treasured and the opinions from your surroundings is different to your reactions.
It is my advice that everything’s would be as it is(was) , earn the trust from yourself and never chase after love in reciprocals for the materialistic avenues, evaluate your values, provide your own definition for your destiny, don’t let the societal views determine your destiny.
You’re worth somethings of values since your creation and deliverance into this magnificent earth. It’s time to harness your thought from and within yourself to remarkable milestone for your happiness and love.
To your successful living.
By Tagiapu Andalu